Buying bulk, detailed monthly budget, weekly meal plan/prep, scheduling all the things a month in advance. Yup, you read that correctly. No, we don’t have kids and only one person works full time in this household, but I still do all the things that your typical mom of two with crazy schedules does, and it has saved my sanity and lowered my anxiety.
Last year was a tough year for me, not the first tough year I have had and most likely not the last, but 2017 was different. Our year did not begin as planned and it seemed like every month something was just “off” with me. After the third canceled trip that had already been paid for and scheduled did not happen, because I physically just could not get myself to leave the house, my husband and I both (without knowing) looked up the same Psychiatrists office. I was the one who eventually contacted them and thus began my “new” life of seeking the assistance from a mental health professional. Over the last year, I have learned what my triggers are and what I need to do to be able to function with the rest of society and not just sit at home. I am sure I will share more of my mental health journey throughout the next year because let’s face it, it is a daily thing and one that I am beginning to be more comfortable about sharing. Your mental health is the most important part of having a great life, so why we all shy away from talking about it is beyond me, but it is something that needs to be normalized and hopefully, I can be part of those who are striving to make it just that, normal.
One of the things that I have taken away from my many sessions is that I need organization in my life to be able to be more spontaneous and not panic over being away from my home. It sounds so weird, but the more prepared I am, the more I can just go with the flow. Now, don’t get me wrong, I still have detailed plans for some of the more significant events in our life, but for short little trips, I am learning to just go with the flow. That is, as long as my house, which is my “safe space” is in order, which leads me to why I treat our life like we are a family of four going in four different directions.
It will come as no surprise to anyone, that as a household of two, you don’t have to meal plan and prep or buy items in bulk. If you run out of toothpaste or toilet paper, you can just run to the store – no matter what time of day or night it is. However, the only way that my husband and I have gotten to the position that we are in in life is because of certain choices that I have made. Those choices being – I buy household and some grocery items in bulk (it actually does save you money), I sit down every week and plan out our meals and if I can prep certain items I will. I NEVER go to the grocery store without a list, which is how I never spend more than $100 on food we need for that week, and we don’t eat crap, follow along on Instagram and you will see that my husband has come accustomed to his Saturday night Napa spread (meat and cheese adds up, let me tell you). I also have gotten in the habit the last few months, and have made it my goal for 2018, to schedule all the things all at once. This is one thing I have learned from some fellow bloggers. Having a plan for the entire year for your life just makes things run smoothly. You realize that you actually should still “date” your husband and go away every once in a while, not just one big trip per year. You also realize that your husband has not had a physical in 2 years or that neither one of you have had your eyes checked in about 3. It is amazing how some of these simple appointments never get planned when you are going about your day to day and putting it off for another time.
I feel like everyone I talk to makes resolutions to get more organized that year, well, coming from the queen of organization I can say that you should NOT put it off for another day. Sit down and take just ONE day before the month of January is over and plan everything for your year. Get your schedules synced with your spouse, partner, kids, dogs, whoever is living their day to day with you. Then, take on the task of simplifying your home. It is not that we need a million boxes to store all our things, it is that we all have way to much stuff in our homes. The minute I simplified our life last year, was the minute I started to get control of my anxiety. If you feel like you are always running, always looking, always stressed about something, most of the time it is because of your surroundings being “too busy” and it trickles down to the rest of your life.
Since I get tons of messages about how budgeting, meal prep, and even how I buy bulk for two people without feeling like we have a ton of stuff – keep an eye on this blog over the next few weeks and I will be sharing all my secrets to help make your 2018 the best year yet.
2017 was an amazing year for my husband and me, we got so far ahead in our life, even with some of the setbacks that happened and I 100% attribute that to the fact that we simplified, organized, and planned things out. Our days and weeks run so smoothly now in 2018 that I can’t wait to see what happens. We just might become that family of four, that is of course, by adding 8 little PAWS to our family.