How do you know when it is the right time to throw in the towel on a relationship? No, I am not talking about marriage, I am talking about a family relationship that continues to disappoint and be stress that is not something I need in this already crazy life and the world.
Yes, I am sure the majority of people out there would say that you can’t pick your family, you are stuck with them for life, but is that really the healthiest option for everyone? Why would you stay working on a relationship, hoping that it would improve just for the other party to never make an effort or be willing to change? That is the type of relationship that I am talking about, and that is the type of relationship that I have made the conscious decision to throw the towel in on.
We have the ability to pick every other type of relationship we enter into – friendships, our spouse, our career and work, but we don’t seem to have that ability when it comes to our family. Over the last two years I have dealt with my own personal struggles when it comes to relationships and those who are extremely toxic to my well being. I have taken the time to try and put myself in their shoes and all that other ridiculousness that therapists and family members have suggested, but at the end of the day, it has been two years since this person and I have spoken. It has been two years since we have seen each other. It has been two years since they have even cared to ask how our life is. Two years is enough time to realize that they weren’t contributing anything to our life and aren’t missed now that they are not in it anymore.
The reason I have decided to share this part of my life is
Yes, it makes family gatherings difficult, especially when trying to plan who will spend what holidays with whom. Over the last two
So, the short of it, do what is good for you and your life, stop pushing relationships that just aren’t working, and be okay with changing the way that “family” looks. As someone constantly said to me years ago,
I made a promise to myself that 2018 was going to be the year of taking care of me, and as we quickly approach the end of that year I am recommitting to making 2019 the year of me. I thought I needed to step away from the blogging world to find happiness but quickly have realized that the thing you think you don’t need is the thing you actually need more than ever. Although I have had a few setbacks this year, it truly has been one of the happiest years in a very long time for me and I can’t wait to see what 2019 has in store for our little family.