We all know those people, don’t deny that you don’t, be honest with yourself – that one person who thinks they know your life better than you and gives you unsolicited advice. I made a promise to myself and my psychiatrist last year that I would remove those people from my life because for me they are toxic and no one’s got time for crazy, life is crazy enough these days, like ballistic missile type crazy, mmmkay.
But in all seriousness, I knew that my life would be ten times better if I just walked away from people who felt they knew my life better than I did, even when it turned out that some of those people ended up being family. The biggest thing that I learned about myself over the last year was this – don’t ever say to me, well you just have to sometimes do things that you don’t want to, that’s life. When those words are spoken to me, I shut down faster than the U.S. government when funding runs out. In my mind, I don’t have to do something just because. Each day I wake up and make a conscious decision about what I am going to do that day, this is a benefit to the life my husband has created for me. Now, don’t go getting all, well your privileged, not everyone can just choose to not go to work one day because they aren’t “feeling it.” This I get, I went to a job for the longest time that I dreaded and I regret that I did that, instead of trying to figure out what I really wanted or needed in my professional life to feel satisfied. We all, however, do have the decision each day to do what we want. No one forces you to buy expensive coffee from a barista, that, let’s be honest, probably makes more than you. No one forces you to workout when you don’t want to. No one forces you to eat fast food because it is easier than trying to make dinner when you are in a rush. Those are all things that we choose to do, that may or may not be benefiting our life long term. But, I am not here to judge what you do in your life, they are just things that I choose to not do and that should be okay with everyone, and even if it isn’t, you shouldn’t feel the need to say it isn’t.
Life is simple – your life is your life, and mine is mine. I shouldn’t have to be told what I should or shouldn’t be doing. I don’t need to hear people tell me on the regular that my husband and I spend too much money on wine, clothes, vacations, you name it they complain about it, no one but my husband and I know what our bank account says, well maybe our financial planner, but I think we are doing ok if we have a financial planner we pay monthly. No one should judge the type of car I drive, the house I live in, or handbag I am carrying, but for whatever reason, people do. When did it become an acceptable habit of the human race to judge others for what they have or don’t have, what their occupation is or isn’t, and how they choose to spend their time. If I am happy in life, if my marriage is the healthiest it has ever been and if I have zero complaints about my life, that is all anyone should care about. I really do wish that more people would challenge themselves in 2018 to take a look in the mirror, if you don’t like what you see or who you are, it is simple – CHANGE.
If you wanna make the world a better place
Take a look at yourself, and then make a change
The one thing, of many, that I appreciate and love about my husband is that he never lets us settle. Even when it takes us away from family, friends and a life we were used to, we knew that sometimes, just maybe, the grass can be greener on the other side, you just have to work for it, never give in to people who doubt you and focus on YOU, not everyone else.We’ve been called selfish, and we are okay with that because we are doing life on our terms, because I never again want to be at my lowest point in life because everyone around me kept saying, well sometimes you just have to do things you don’t want to, that’s life. Well, that is no longer a life I am leading, and if you love yourself enough it should also be a life you decide to not lead as well. Life is WAY too short to be unhappy, unhealthy and not living your best life!